On 21 May 2003 Kirsti (fleming@mnstate.NOTDOTCOM) from Fargo, ND (US) asked

Dear Departed Di,
We are throwing a double shower, for girlfriends only. Our problem is that each mother-to-be has 1 or 2 friends that do not know the other mother-to-be. We still want to include those guests, as it is important for our 2 mothers-to-be, but we do not want those guests to feel obligated to buy a gift for the mother-to-be that they do not know. Is there anything we can include in their invites? We don’t want to make them feel cheap OR obligated to buy 2 gifts. What can we do????? Thanks!

Invite them in the name of the mother-to-be they know.